Everybody has all sorts of drawback natively, lie for instance, everybody such “ on the body is bad habitual ” cans be found everywhere. Resemble ” of “ frank and outspoken this word, how, is your the first reaction commendatory word? Hum, such really, nevertheless, ” of this “ commendatory word also is the edge tool that injures a person occasionally. This winter vacation, I was read " red building " the —— of a conte in " Bao Yu throws jade " , I from merchant something was acquired again on parent body.
每个人生来就有各种缺陷，比如撒谎，每个人身上这样的“坏习惯”比比皆是。像“心直口快”这个词，怎么样，你的第一反应是不是褒义词？嗯，的确如此，不过，这个“褒义词”有时候也是伤人的利器。这个寒假，我读到了《红楼》里的一个小故事——《宝玉摔玉》，我从贾母身上又学到了一些东西。
That is the time that Gu Fu takes at the beginning of Lin Daiyu, the person of whole Gu Fu came almost, have Gu Baoyu among them. He enters room, pay a formal visit merchant after the mother, sit was in on the side of black jade, the mouth asks have jade, black jade shakes shake one's head, bao Yu “ vacates ” ground to stand up tear down jade is bungled toward the ground, merchant the mother is a little so angry that the mother quiver, say the little sister is some so, this is a jade and maternal bury were together, do not wish make public, just say not. Bao Yuting, quiet.
那是林黛玉初进贾府的日子，整个贾府的人几乎都来了，其中就有贾宝玉。他一进屋，拜见贾母后，就坐在了黛玉旁边，开口就问有没有玉，黛玉摇摇头，宝玉“腾”地一下就站起来扯下玉往地上砸，贾母有些气得发抖，便说妹妹原来是有的，这是把玉和母亲葬在一起了，不愿张扬，才说的没有。宝玉听了，一下就安静了。
You may say: Merchant how did the origin say to just also write a story again, besides this story is a holiday, what can this let us acquire? Lie? Not, this you understand a fault, if merchant how didn't the mother make up this story to meet? Baoyu won't come to jade pick up possibly to go calmly, put over to step on bipod to perhaps be kicked twice more more however, come in that way he writes a composition his successfully ” of “ one's very life gives botch. We are said by the parent as a child, lying is incorrect, it is bad, but welcome person, often won't speak out the fact occasionally, however boast two: “ you are really good-looking today! ”
你可能会说：贾母再怎么说也只是编了一个故事，况且这故事是假的，这能让我们学到什么呢？撒谎？不，这你就理解错了，如果贾母没有编这个故事会怎么样？宝玉可能不会把玉捡起来心平气和地走了，而是放在那儿多踩两脚或者多踢两下，那样一来他就成功地把自己的作文“命根子”给糟蹋了。我们从小被家长说，撒谎是不正确的，是不好的，但是受欢迎的人，有时候往往不会把事实说出来，而是夸两句：“你今天真好看！”
This, affection Shang Xi.
此，情商兮。
Resemble most first phase " fast this " in, when Shen Ling lifts a 1000 royal seal 8 years old, after what stagewise saw him is magic, shen Ling requests 1000 royal seal to call his “ ” of magic Great Master, and he called “ piquantly however magic Xiaoshi ” , when he requests 1000 royal seal to call “ ” of magic Great Master again, 1000 royal seal said magic a courtesy title used to address a Buddhist monk of a “ hello ” , let his agitato jump. 1000 royal seal are early perhaps understood him simple magic, he can choose completely also silent mix the past or again piquant, but he chose to call “ ” of magic Great Master, make Shen Ling very happy. May what Shen Ling also knows him oneself is magic not be very magical, but also be to play only happy ah.
像最一期《快本》中，沈凌提起千玺8岁的时候，在舞台上看了他的魔术后，沈凌请求千玺叫自己一声“魔术大师”，而他却调皮地叫了一声“魔术小师”，当他再次请求千玺叫“魔术大师”的时候，千玺说了一句“魔术大师你好”，让他兴奋地跳了起来。也许千玺早就看懂了他简单的魔术，他也完全可以选择沉默混过去或再次调皮一下，但他选择叫了“魔术大师”，就让沈凌很开心。可能沈凌也自知他的魔术不是很神奇，但也只是为了玩个开心啊。
Not be ” of all “ crammer must be defined to be “ bad ” , some circumstances, you said lie, just often make everybody not awkward. This also can be calculated to receive favour of business among them one of. “ affection business is very much moment returns a canal to use than intelligence quotient. It can be ” already you raise money person arteries and veins concerns, also can decide you will come your adversary amount. Crammer is not good thing, but well-meaning crammer is affection commercial law treasure.
并不是所有“谎言”都得被定义为“坏”，有些场合，你说了假话，往往才让大家都不尴尬。这也可以被算进情商的其中之一吧。“情商很多时候比智商还管用。”它既可以为你筹集人脉关系，也可以决定你将来你的对手数量。谎言不是好东西，但善意的谎言是情商法宝。(文/陈司哲)